I want does get
Saying what you actually want. Sometimes good, sometimes bad.
Done a whole thing before on saying you’re fine when you’re not. Don’t read it now, read it after this. Maybe even block out the rest of your afternoon to go through my back catalogue. No pressure, though.
Back to saying what you want. How often do you say something, knowing full well you’re not 100% behind that decision? Justin Bieber was so confused by ol’ Gomez he wrote a whole song asking what she meant. “When you nod your head yes, but you want to say no, what do you mean?”. He nailed it. She wasn’t being clear with what she wanted. How would he know? He’s not a mind reader. He’s just a pop star.
Like saying you want a Chinese when you actually want a Dominos. Only doing yourself a dirty. You’ll be three mouthfuls into your salt and pepper chicken just wishing you said what you wanted.
Maybe someone asked if you wanted another cup of tea and you said no. Of course you want another, you just didn’t want to be an inconvenience.
Someone might have asked if you love your job and want to stay forever. Lo and behold, you said yes. Course you don’t. You want a payrise and a 3 day week.
Why didn’t you just say it in the first place? Maybe it’s their own fault for asking stupid questions. Stupid questions lead to half-arsed responses, and those my friend, come back to bite you.
If you don’t mean it, don’t say it. Simples. Sound like a woman scorned now, don’t I?
I’m not talking about the L word. Say that whenever you want.
My other half said it the first night we met (couple voddy red bulls down him, mind) and we got married a year later. He lucked out. If he didn’t say what he so obviously meant and wanted, he’d probably be 10 lone drinks in, crying at the same bar wishing he told me that night whilst I’m in Ibiza for the summer living my best one. Not that I’ve thought about it at all.
Got what he wanted though, didn’t he?
It’s a big world out there. Loads going on. Do you really have time to dally about not saying what you really mean or want?
Obviously other people’s feelings need to be considered. If old mate next door pops their head over the garden fence, asks how their new haircut looks and it’s got a touch of the Rod Stuart’s, there’s many a way to say something without making them go into full Britney shaving head mode. Yes, it’s the third time this week they’ve interrupted your sunbathing, you want to tell them they look like an idiot but hey, gotta keep up appearances.
Being more direct will get you places. Might set you back for a short time, but in the long run, you’ll be laughing. You’ll have everything you want. No more Chinese on a Friday night. Way more cups of tea. No more neighbours popping their head over your fence. Living in Utopia.
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