It can be so easy to dwell on a decision – whether it be a major one or a minor one – rather than moving forward you dwell on it and find yourself becoming overwhelmed by regret. Here are a couple of ways that you can combat regret and prevent it from allowing you to move forward:
Learn from your decisions. Made a mistake, so what? Haven’t we all at some point. Rather than dwelling on a decision that you have made learn from it and adjust further decisions accordingly.
Talk about regrets. A problem shared is a problem halved and all that jazz. While talking a problem doesn’t necessarily solve it, it does help in that you can share similar situations. Also, if the decision you made was really stupid (no judgement here) it really helps to have someone to laugh about it with – speaking from personal experience.
Focus on the positive. Chances are every decision you’ve made in life has not necessarily been a bad one, we are just intrinsically programmed to focus on the bad rather than the good.
For example, Friday night I ate way too much cheesecake. Now I could focus on the negatives, calories consumed etc but following my own advice let’s look at the positives (a) the cheesecake was bloody lovely and (b) it cost me 35p yes you heard that right just 35 pence. Thank you very much M&S.
Regret is a normal part of living life. The main take away from this article is that no one wants to be that person that gets to the end of their life with a ton of regrets. Without sounding too much like an Instagram Influencer focus on living your best life and don’t regret the decisions that you make.
Now if you need me, I will be shamelessly seeking out the yellow stickers in M&S Chipping Norton.
IT & Cybersecurity Consultant